here's my UPDATE:
Just minutes ago, the very long and awesome post I was writing here randomly disappeared
So here's the re-write.
I have been absent from this site for almost two yrs but this morning I felt a very STRONG URGE to come on here and give everyone my personal update on things and a rundown on what's been happening/what has andhasn't helped me FBO/life wise, ect.
Two yrs ago, I came on here and said Betadine had cured my FBO. Turns out that was a temporary fix. Soon after, I began the anti-candida diet but that didn't help the fbo either. At that time, I was 25 and haden't had a job in 4+ yrs. but got called up for an interview Jan. 2013 and got hired. The diet had nothing to do with being hired since I still smelled.
After being hired I felt confident enough to sign up for a dating site. There, I found someone. We started talking which lead to a meet up, dating, move-in and an engagement. Unfortunately, this person had BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER and didn't know it. Thus, our relationship/homelife was very rocky to say the least. Serious fights/arguments broke out daily. Much the way FBO destroys our lives, this mental illness was destroying my partners life. My partner had NO FRIENDS and was hated by all the people at work. So because of the similarities, I stayed; wanting to help my partner overcome whatever problem this was. So I did what I knew to do in a crisis (a problem). I prayed. I asked GOD to reveal to us what was going on with BOTH OF US. I started looking online and suddenly, things started making sense. Different things I had overlooked before began popping OUT AT ME. It was as if GOD was guiding me to the CORRECT information concerning FBO/BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER and our lives. With God's guidance and online research, on October 2014, we finally confirmed that Borderline Personality Disorder was at play the entire time and are getting my partner proper treatment. But in the begining of 2014 I still had little answers on what was going on with my partner and with myself regarding FBO.
So I began searching for GOD yet again.
But TRUE revelation didn't happen until MARCH 2014 . Me and my partner had a horrible fight mid March, where I ended up being kicked out and broken up with. Not only was I heart broken but I was left homeless too. So much negativity went through my head since we didn't know that BORDERLINE PERSONALTY DISORDER was the problem in March. I began to blame myself for everything. I told myself my partner didn't love me because I smell and that I had been kicked out because of the smell. ISN'T THAT INSANE? Well this smell has a way of making you think everything is your fault.
In the days to come and in being homeless in my car, I felt a STRONG URGE to go to church. I was low on gas but something told me to go. I went but as soon as I turned into the parking lot of the church, I felt a LOT of opposition, like something was stopping me. I didn't know what to do. I finally got out of my car and looked around. A woman and her husband/kids parked next to me and looked like they were in a hurry.
When I see them I want to LEAVE to avoid any rejection by them (avoid the comments, the sniffing, the dirty looks, the coughing) and rejection from the people inside the church. I go to open my car door and... MY KEYS ARE LOCKED INSIDE! I HAVEN'T LOCKED MY KEYS IN 4 YEARS! Like clock work, it seems GOD had picked this day to reach out to me :-) The woman gets out and says "Hello. How are you today"? I said "Fine thank you". I looked a mess that morning and was so embarrassed. I felt ashamed; I was dirty, I haden't showered in days/changed my clothes in days. I haden't brushed my teeth in days either.
She asked me if I had locked my keys. I said yes but I can get them out. I was lying. I was actually very worried, alone, sad and had no idea how I was going to unlock my car. She told me she would call AAA for me with her membership card. I said thank you. While we waited for the AAA lock out guy she asked me what was my story. I started talking normally and telling her little bits and pieces. She asked more questions and I just finally couldn't keep my voice from cracking and started crying. She hugged me and surprizingly her hug felt like a MAJOR RELIEF! Never had someone given me a hug that made me feel so loved! She hugged me despite me being dirty, smelly, dressed badly. Her kindness floored me and touched my heart.
She confessed that when she saw me she felt she needed to reach out to me and didn't know why. I told her that I too felt like something supernatural was at work when my keys just so "HAPPENED" to get locked inside my car. I suddenly let out laugh in between the tears. She then began telling me of all the struggles she underwent in her life and told me about how GOD had helped her through it. She said "this all seems like a coincidence but for GOD there are no coincidences". She was SO RIGHT. The entire time I had been asking God to bring me closer to him, to give me revelations and this day he had revealed HIMSELF TO ME, through this woman. God is SO GOOD.
And To this day she and I still keep in contact and my life has never been the same since then. Me and my partner get along much better, althought we still do argue. I still have FBO as far as I can tell but there have been a few things that have helped me. These are all things that I feel GOD wants me to share with the FBO community. Wether you believe in GOD or not I think all the information I am going to post next will help a lot of people.
WHAT HAS HELPED ME:
GOD and FATIH
Do you feel worthless? Lost? Confused? Alone? Unwanted? That you have nothing to offer? Like you dont matter? This FBO thing has a way of making you feel terrible. BUT NEVER LOSE HOPE ALWAYS have FAITH. STAY POSITIVE. BELIEVE IN GOD. He will show you the way, no doubt. If you don't believe me then why don't you give GOD a try. Anyone who tells you there is no GOD is trying to keep you from experiencing it for yourself. TRY THINGS FOR YOURSELF> FOLLOW YOUR HEART. NEVER listen to anyone/anything that's DISCOURAGING about any IDEAS/PLANS/DREAMS you have! TRY IT FOR YOURSELF! SEEK TRUTH AND KNOWLEDGE! HAVING FBO is like playing chess, YOU GOTTA THINK STEPS AHEAD AND ANTICIPATE UR OPPONENTS NEXT MOVES.
OPPONENTS
You may be confused about what I mean by an opponent. An opponent is anything or anyone that creates opposition for you in any area. Anything includes the FBO. Anyone includes ANYTHING, ect. DO NOT LET YOURSELF be an oopponent to your own success. Too many times people with FBO let this problem get in the way. They walk away from opportunities because they want to avoid rejection or mistreatment. WE HAVE TO BE BOLD and BRAVE in these times. There are SO MANY WAYS of reaching goals now. We DO NOT have to go the traditional or conventional route to anything if it makes us uncomfrotable.
FBO WEAPONS..
Our best weapon is our MIND and a computer or phone with an intenret connection. What we BELIEVE is what we can achieve. We can do ANYTHING everybody else can. Definitely for me GOD was my BEST weapon. Also a POSITIVE OUTLOOK is KEY.
WHAT HELPED ME FBO WISE
1) Hemorrhoid creme with Aloe -
This HELPED a little but didn't cure me. Now I can have a bowel movement without that SUPER strong after smell. I have no idea if this means I have/had hemorrhoids. It could have been/be an anal fistula. I have no idea. It helps, it doesn't cure it. You gotta try it for yourself though. It takes a good 2 weeks - 3 months to have full effect in healing your anus/fistula ect. ALOE helps skin heal. The idea behind this is that the aloe in the cream helps any tears heal. These tears can make someone smell after a bowel movement if bacteria/feces becomes trapped inside them. LOOK UP information on "anal fistulas" and odors.
2) have 1 bowel moment a DAY or TWO-
I achieve this by drinking coffee every morning or using a suppository. PLEASE dont drink caffenated coffee. This could cause other health issues in the long run. AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE DRINKING A LOT OF WATER EVERYDAY (try not to drink tap water, ARROWHEAD WATER IS BEST)
3) RINSE YOUR MOUTH WITH HOMEMADE MOUTHWASH!!!
THIS HAS ALMOST ELIMINATED MY BAD BREATH! And it HASN'T stopped working like the bentadine but you have to do this after you ahev anything to eat, and you also have to floss and brush your teeth.
The receipe is... 80 proof Vodka or higher and CINNAMON POWDER MIXED TOGETHER.
WARNING: DO NOT SWALLOW and DO NOT do this less than one hour before driving or you could get a DUI!
Afterwards rinse your mouth and gargle with a mouthwash that guards against DRY MOUTH like BIOTENE,
www.biotene.com/products/mouthwash***INSTRUCTIONS: rinse with the vodka solution for a whole minute,
THEN GARGLE FOR A MINUTE.
DO THE SAME WITH THE DRY MOUTH MOUTHWASH (rINSE FOR A MINUTE, GARGLE FOR A MINUTE)***
4) EAT ORGANIC -
EATING ORGANIC AND HEALTHY FOODS ALWAYS REDUCED THE FBO for me. Not so much eating healthy non-organic foods so that tells you something! But I'm not really able to afford organic right now but I do recond it.
It's always best to start a cleanse before you eat healthy or organic but if you don't want to, you don't have to do a cleanse. Go to curezone.com and search "cleanse" to learn more on cleanses. The cleanse that helped me the most with reducing the odor was the LIVER CLEANSE with Olive Oil and Coca Cola. WARNING: YOU MIGHT STINK WORSE DURING THE CLEANSE
5) EXTERCISE -
extercise USUALLY only helps men with FBO (particularly, men who weight lifting). BUT in general extercise will make u feel better about yourself and look better too. If you want someone to excercise with, try putting an ad up on Craigslist.org (Craigslist.org/) in the "Strickly Platonic" section. Just make sure you guys do it outside and that they are never downwind of you or else he/she will be catching your smell the entire time. MAKE SURE you post the ad in the city thats closest for you. MAKE SURE TO SCREEN PEOPLE before meeting up with them, use caution after all these are strangers. Gotta stay steps ahead.
6) REMOVE STRESS! -
If working around people is causing you stress, I have an AWESOME resource for working from home. It's called
www.RatRaceRebellion.comon the left side of the home page there are different things you can click on that will take you to legit jobs. PLEASE DO NOT SHARE THIS SITE WITH ANYONE WHO DOESNT HAVE FBO! This will only cause FBO people to lose job opportunities to other people which is something we already struggle with!
If you have no or very little formal job tranning, click on the "miscellaneous" tab on the left part of the homepage and you will find all sorts of online jobs. or click in "CUSTOMER SERVICE".
7) Want to go to college? -
Take online courses
You can also train to get your truck driver cert and become a truck driver. they earn good money and work alone. If you want a job where you work alone go on google.com and search "Jobs where you work alone" or something like that
THERE ARE SO MANY POSSIBILITIES OUT THERE FOR US!
I am living a happy life despite FBO.
Im engaged, living with my partner for almost two years now. Have my own business, have pets, a car, and a purpose! I dont wake up alone anymore in my bed to people coughing and making comments because the life I lead is not as filled with stress as before. GOD brought me to freedom. Where I was once a slave to FBO, now FBO is my captive :-)
IF YOU CAN BELIEVE you can achive.
if you want someone to talk to I can be reached at JenyJennifer1234 AT GMAIL DOT COM
GOD IS GOOD! ALL THE TIME!
God Bless EVERYONE.
Please look to Jesus, he is the only one who can set us FREE and SAVE US!
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