Your views in dating?

[MissFizi]

dating and friendship is a very normal social proccess. how do you guys go about it?

[lidia09]

I haven't dated in over 4 years. I didn't understand what was going on with me and I'm just now getting an idea of what it could possibly be thanks to this site. I would love to date but I can't. It's hard to explain to somebody what’s going on with you when there’s not too much research on it and the majority of the ppl don't even know it exist or understand it. It would be extremely embarrassing to try and date with constant B.O. you can only imagine dating in NY with this, no bueno. Besides I always say that I don't want to stop anyone’s life because what I'm dealing with. I don't want nobody to miss out on other opportunities of having a dating life with someone who's (normal). I don't want to be anybody's burden.

[Arun Nagrath]

Lidia,
Have you considered meeting male members of this site who have the same problem as you? After all, they would have the same 'burden' as you.

You could do this quite easily by posting a newly formed email address and saying something like:-

"23 year old female member seeks Group members in NY of similar age to socialise with, contact email ..."

These are your golden years, don't waste them!

[lidia09]

I will do just that. I think having someone that understands me and my struggles would make me more at ease. Thank You.

[jo hanson]

at the very least meeting with other local people with similar conditions in the area . Seeing how things go .

[lidia09]

I agree with you skunk hugs. I'll look into that it definately sounds like something I'd be interested in.

[MissFizi]

very well said Arun. These are your golden years . your just 23 don't waste it. I do understand your point though, lidia, its hard to go on dates without getting paranoid about your odor. I was always upfront about my odor problems and told my dates I had tmau. I figured if he liked me enough to ask me out then he would understand. I had gone on successful dates and actually dated my ex for a year plus and keep in mine then my odor was more than terrible. he never said a word, never twitched his nose or anything. Sadly we broke up when he moved out of the country. we are still close friends. So you see you never know what's out there until you take a brave step forward

[MissFizi]

skunkhugs, I used to live in ny and always organized local meetups it was fun, free and we all had a great time. we picked resturants go meet, even went to parks or walked around Manhattan. I always felt better after those meetings. am very friendly and supportive if your all looking for friends, you have got a friend in me. send me a message anytime, I could call , you can even come and visit me. I think we are normal but being normal depends on your own personal definition of it

[lidia09]

I never thought about letting the guy know upfront. I always found it hard to talk aboutso it was always easier to avoid people rather than leting them into my life and explain my situation. I will try to tak your approach MissFizi.

[222chick]

Just one of my friends have made a light indirect joke about it a couple times saying things like, "You know you want some gum, girl." The others have said nothing and still get close to me, but maybe they hold their breath when they do? I always make sure to not breath when people are close, to only mumble and get away asap as casually as possible. This is heartbreaking to think about. I have been in an intimate relationship with a guy who made a couple comments when we first met, but then stopped. I know it was NOT because my problem went away because I still deal with reactions from others every now and then when I can't avoid getting close. Most of the time I can avoid this though. I made sure to never talk to him to closely or kiss with my mouth too wide while making sure to not exhale out of my mouth. Being intimate with someone with this is tough work. All the time you are thinking about your breathe and keeping your head turned away and not opening your mouth too much. Ugh. I just want to be normal and be able to get close to people.

[katnap]

I've never been on a date in my 21 years of life. Which is so lame, lol. I have never even held hands with a boy.

I guess it doesn't help that I went to an all girls high school and when I went into college that is when I became a recluse because the odour just became too humiliating for me in such a different environment.

For me though, I worry about finishing my degree more than getting a boyfriend and going on dates. I feel like you can get a guy at any time in your life. But I need to get my degree and get into the work field so I can support myself and bring less worry to my family.

Hopefully one day I'll be in a relationship. Cross my fingers it happens before im 30. I don't really want to be a 30 year old virgin. haha, so sad.

[roma]

I have stop dating altogether for about a year now, It is frustrating at times especially when you know you have got so much to give and it is wasted.

[jenny]

I tried dating, many times, online dating.. I wouls talk to a girl (yes, lesbo here) and strike up a convo online (not funny one, I'm not too funny, I was before the smell) and we'd meet a few months later and usually the girl would end up dating me but she would always lie n cheat and still be into her ex. I was and have always been the rebound and I suspect its because of the odor, so I decided to instead of getting myself into yet ANOTHER bad relationship that I would just dedicate myself to stop being Gay and reading my bible while trying to cure this problem. Perhaps God will have mercy on me and cure me who knows!

Point is most homosexuals are messed up people. There's only a very few "good apples" in the gay world. Most just want sex and adapt the world versions of the sex they best identify with; If they feel feminine they choose to be extremely CATTY and gossip a lot and only look out for Number ONE, if they identify with the male character they choose to be a horrible WOMANIZER who cheats and lies to women and hurts them ............ Then there's the girls who's mommie and daddy didn't give them enough love and are just looking for a replacement mom, oh my gosh and the lesbians they u-haul (I done that before! BIG MISTAKE!).

U-HAULing means..
After only the first or second date, You move in together!
And it happens ALL THE TIME in the gay community.
So u can see why I would want to leave that behind me.

My last relationship was with a girl (she's a girl because despite her 26 years of age she was extremely immature!) who lived in HAWAII.
So naturally, after 3 1/2 months of us talking all day everyday non stop and sleeping on the phone together and exchanging pictures and letters through the mail, she asked me to u-Haul it to hawaii, and I did.. Hoping that perhaps this relationship would finally be the end of all my loneliness, ect.
But NAY, it was NOT!

All the problems I had because of THE SMELL, this relationship just MAGNIFIED those PROBLEMs!
Long story short,

6 months of living together and planning to be married, one day sex stopped.
Sex stopped in month 4.
I asked why there was no sex, she said she wasn't feeling well.
month 5, still no sex, massive amounts of arguing.
Month 6, massive fight,
Then she simply leaves me for her ex from 5 yrs ago.
And she treats me like SH*T
Doesn't have the decency to pack her bags and leave me, she simply stays with me to see if she can salvage a relationship with me in case her ex ends up not working out.
I gave my all, I always do.
I cooked, cleaned, worked, provided for us and she helped provide too.
We were a team, then it was over.

And all my relationships are always like this.
A lot of sex the first 2 or 3 months, then it stops.
Maybe my sex drives too high, idk, that's what my last ex claimed but that's not true.
Basic point, I don't need people always using me as a back up.

To God I'm priority and He has always and Will always love me.
Jesus will never leave me for "someone else".

Yep!