Post by Arun Nagrath on Nov 3, 2011 20:00:05 GMT
From Archive 20/04/10
theoneofeight
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 9
An old message from Arun
Well, I was having a pretty bad day today, and you know the routine, we stay up until 2 am and scour the internet for that proverbial 'cure'. Anyhow, I came across this old article/message, read it through to the end, and noticed that it was signed by Arun. I thought I'd share it here - just a warning though, if you're feeling a little down right now don't read the article.
Dearly departed ......farewell Rob
Wednesday, November 07 2007 @ 08:17 AM MST
Contributed by: Arun
Views: 1,843
I have some bad news for some Group members, especially in the UK.
This message is for Group members in the UK and whoever else knew Rob. Please note, this is concerning Rob from UK and not Rob from Australia, America or anywhere else.
I contacted Rob's number a week or so ago (as a Group member had come to stay with me for 10 days) and was informed by Rob's mother (Rob was temporarily staying with his parents) that she lost Rob in June of this year!
Rob was 1 of around 20 UK members who I had met personally. I met Rob on at least 5-10 occassions and found him to be an intelligent, confident guy (despite this problem).
He was a handsome guy, around 30ish and quite well spoken. He attended a number of our Group meetings in London but stopped attending the meetings around a year or so ago. He said he would come but always backed out at the last minute, I think he had financial problems.
He recently split up with a long-term girlfriend and told me that she could not accept the way he isolated himself from society because this affected her social life greatly aswell. He refused to meet her friends and he left his job after some colleagues made fun of his condition.
In his last days, Rob suffered markedly from Bipolar Disorder (according to his mum) and he told me that he believed certain individuals were spying on him, making derogatory remarks about his odour, and were out to harm him.
I was too gutted to ask Rob's mum how he died, and I suspect she was too gutted to tell me also.
I'm sorry to post this sort of thing on a 'Support Group', perhaps it's very wrong of me but I wanted others who knew Rob to know.
Rob rang me close to the time he died and told me he was feeling down. He had recently moved from London to a city some 200 miles away (where his parents lived) and I told him I would try to visit him soon. I don't think I realized just how down Rob was.
Guys, if you ever hear from Group members that they are feeling really down, please make a big effort to support them otherwise you may end up feeling like me.
Arun
#2
20th April 2010
scientist42
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Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
Yes dude,
Depression is a very prominent feature of our condition and can often be related to how bad our odour is. However, some of us can cope with having strong odours and yet not feel very depressed. Others may have a mild odour and yet feel really down. I believe our coping mechanism may be partly genetically acquired.
Because people with our conditions are more prone to depression and suicidality, the medical profession has decided that the best approach to dealing with our condition is to deny it even exists (providing all organic causes have been eliminated). This is especially true when the patient can not detect his/her own odour. Unfortunately, in our minds this creates the impression that the doctor does not care!
Arun
#3
20th April 2010
realcooltrash
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Location: Los Angeles
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Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
this breaks my heart.. i have actually considered going down this route when my odor was at an all time high about a couple months back. and if it werent for the fact that i have family who love me who i didnt want to hurt, i probably would have gone through with it. if anyone anywhere ever feels down and feels that suicide is the only way that they can once again regain control, please message me. i may not have the answers but i completely understand and will do the best in my power to help. just remember you are never alone!
#4
22nd April 2010
scientist42
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: London
Posts: 725
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
Yes guys,
If you get that down please take realcooltrash up on her offer. It's all completely anonymous. What have you got to loose?
Arun
#5
22nd April 2010
realcooltrash
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Los Angeles
Posts: 17
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
im a girl but yes, everyone is welcome to message me.
#6
26th April 2010
theoneofeight
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 9
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
Arun, I think you should add 'Dudette' in your vocab from this point on
realcooltrash, thanks for that open invitation to everyone, a simple guesture like that goes a long way.
theoneofeight
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 9
An old message from Arun
Well, I was having a pretty bad day today, and you know the routine, we stay up until 2 am and scour the internet for that proverbial 'cure'. Anyhow, I came across this old article/message, read it through to the end, and noticed that it was signed by Arun. I thought I'd share it here - just a warning though, if you're feeling a little down right now don't read the article.
Dearly departed ......farewell Rob
Wednesday, November 07 2007 @ 08:17 AM MST
Contributed by: Arun
Views: 1,843
I have some bad news for some Group members, especially in the UK.
This message is for Group members in the UK and whoever else knew Rob. Please note, this is concerning Rob from UK and not Rob from Australia, America or anywhere else.
I contacted Rob's number a week or so ago (as a Group member had come to stay with me for 10 days) and was informed by Rob's mother (Rob was temporarily staying with his parents) that she lost Rob in June of this year!
Rob was 1 of around 20 UK members who I had met personally. I met Rob on at least 5-10 occassions and found him to be an intelligent, confident guy (despite this problem).
He was a handsome guy, around 30ish and quite well spoken. He attended a number of our Group meetings in London but stopped attending the meetings around a year or so ago. He said he would come but always backed out at the last minute, I think he had financial problems.
He recently split up with a long-term girlfriend and told me that she could not accept the way he isolated himself from society because this affected her social life greatly aswell. He refused to meet her friends and he left his job after some colleagues made fun of his condition.
In his last days, Rob suffered markedly from Bipolar Disorder (according to his mum) and he told me that he believed certain individuals were spying on him, making derogatory remarks about his odour, and were out to harm him.
I was too gutted to ask Rob's mum how he died, and I suspect she was too gutted to tell me also.
I'm sorry to post this sort of thing on a 'Support Group', perhaps it's very wrong of me but I wanted others who knew Rob to know.
Rob rang me close to the time he died and told me he was feeling down. He had recently moved from London to a city some 200 miles away (where his parents lived) and I told him I would try to visit him soon. I don't think I realized just how down Rob was.
Guys, if you ever hear from Group members that they are feeling really down, please make a big effort to support them otherwise you may end up feeling like me.
Arun
#2
20th April 2010
scientist42
Site Owner
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: London
Posts: 725
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
Yes dude,
Depression is a very prominent feature of our condition and can often be related to how bad our odour is. However, some of us can cope with having strong odours and yet not feel very depressed. Others may have a mild odour and yet feel really down. I believe our coping mechanism may be partly genetically acquired.
Because people with our conditions are more prone to depression and suicidality, the medical profession has decided that the best approach to dealing with our condition is to deny it even exists (providing all organic causes have been eliminated). This is especially true when the patient can not detect his/her own odour. Unfortunately, in our minds this creates the impression that the doctor does not care!
Arun
#3
20th April 2010
realcooltrash
Junior Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Los Angeles
Posts: 17
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
this breaks my heart.. i have actually considered going down this route when my odor was at an all time high about a couple months back. and if it werent for the fact that i have family who love me who i didnt want to hurt, i probably would have gone through with it. if anyone anywhere ever feels down and feels that suicide is the only way that they can once again regain control, please message me. i may not have the answers but i completely understand and will do the best in my power to help. just remember you are never alone!
#4
22nd April 2010
scientist42
Site Owner
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: London
Posts: 725
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
Yes guys,
If you get that down please take realcooltrash up on her offer. It's all completely anonymous. What have you got to loose?
Arun
#5
22nd April 2010
realcooltrash
Junior Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Los Angeles
Posts: 17
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
im a girl but yes, everyone is welcome to message me.
#6
26th April 2010
theoneofeight
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 9
Re: An old message from Arun in another forum
Arun, I think you should add 'Dudette' in your vocab from this point on
realcooltrash, thanks for that open invitation to everyone, a simple guesture like that goes a long way.